Let your values be your guide in life


What is a value?

The Answer?    The attributes, concepts and qualities that are important to you and the life you wish to lead. They are not moral judgments and everyone has different sets of values.




If you are looking for change in your life, more control of your emotions and help with decision making – then exploring and documenting your values is a powerful technique to bring about change and ease emotional conflict.



By discovering your core values you will gain a valuable understanding of just who you are and what makes you tick – a very important aspect of personal growth and achievement. By discovering your values you can begin to resolve the hidden conflicts in your life remove stress and give yourself more direction. You’re more likely to achieve your goals and dreams when they’re not in conflict with your values.



And we all have beliefs too, things we believe we can do and things we believe we can’t. The fact is – what you believe, tends to happen – so it is far more productive to understand your values, recognise your beliefs that underpin them – (get some help if you need to) and then do it!  I believe that we all have core values; whether we know it or not. When these values are compromised we tend to feel bad and when we are living our lives in-line with those values we tend to feel more comfortable and more in control.



We all have secondary values too, values that can be appropriate for a certain amount of time, ones that we can bring to the fore as required as the events in our lives unfold. For example; you may want to increase your ‘courage’ as you start a new job or promote your value of ‘availability’ when you have a young family.



Eliciting your values is not easy, but it is beneficial; remember values are ways of being that mean something important to you.  When you know what your values are (and they are in order of importance) decision-making becomes far easier – as you just follow your values.



In my experience it is very useful to become the type of person who moves towards solutions rather than away from problems. Once your unconscious mind can see your clear list of values and can recognise that achieving these will be good for you, somehow, it just takes you forward. Of course, there will be ups and downs, but at least you will have a map reminding you of what is important to you.   Ultimately, it will take more than just thinking about values – it takes focus and a willingness to love who you are and trust your dreams.

If you would like some help with discovering your values – contact me and I will send you an exercise that will guide you through the process.

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